Innocence arrives in this tiny little package, a package specifically attached to you and every essence of your being, an angelic feeling consumes you. More like your maternal instincts step into place, you have a new life’s goal, a new order of a protection plan consumes your mental,along its an enormous feeling of love and compassion. This tiny little package causes you to evolve, stepping into a milestone of growth, and as you elevate and evolve as does that tiny little package.The milestones, the first time you meet, to the first sound they make, to the first steps, their first words, their first accident, their first day of daycare, up to their first day of school, and even their first fight.
Beauty is found, every memory or reflection brings this infectious smile, or feeling in the pit of your stomach or heart, because every memory or reflection brings you back to the moment you met that tiny little package, receiving that tiny little blessing and changing your whole life. Believe it or not your life is no longer yours, you may think it is but it isn’t anymore because your entire thought process becomes the possession of this tiny little package.
BECAREFUL OF WHAT YOU WISH FOR!!!
Dear parents, we all know the familiar wish that we want granted during some of the most irritating trimesters of their growth, which is to get older so you wont have to be as attentive or so they can do certain things on their own. Am I right? You love them dearly yes, but you have become their personal slaves or waiters, to these little angelic faces, so you make this wish! You are just sure that as they age, and get older things will get better, they’ll be able to feed themselves, clothe themselves, and other little things that after awhile were not so cute. It’s okay I am a parent myself and it’s not shameful to admit that the little boogers made their entry into the world to steal all of the shine, and receive all of the little spoiled pleasures that are created just for them.
HERE COMES THE DOOM…
You wake up one day and they have now officially become teenagers! Now that this moment has arrived, along with it comes unimaginable transitional phases that causes you to backtrack to your childhood memories for help. Now depending on what role you played as a teen versus your siblings or friends makes all the difference on the knowledge obtained from your reflections. Some of you were pretty recklace thus leading you to be filled with panick and or fear now that it’s your baby boy or girls turn now! Yes, they are teens now or even pre-teens and the troubles of crushes and baby love starts. Where does this fear derive from? You remember getting in trouble being told something one too many times and getting under your parental advisors skin, thus leading them to lash out and cast future voodoo on you, Hollering about, “ Everything you putting me through you are going to get back from your child when you have one. I cant wait till you have one so you can see how it feel.” Have you in there like “Talledega Nights”, “Don’t you put that evil on me Momma, don’t you put that evil on me.” We never knew just how true those words that resonated would truly be.
THE FEAR SWOOPS IN…
Now the fear sets in, sweeping through your mental because now you have to try to figure out what kind of kid you have. I know it sounds a little funny but just think about it, these tiny little beings aren’t so tiny anymore and just like you as they grow in age, and body structure, their character traits evolve or are ever changing, the phases of adolescence has arrived. You may have instilled some wonderful and impactful knowledge but lets be real the world is an instructor on its own and what’ s life without experiences in which every kid has to dabble in something. Now, which kid do you have, the one that reminds you of yourself, their dad, your sister or maybe even your best friend. You drive yourself crazy and before you know it you have officially become a stalker to your child/children. Yeah, I know you don’t want to hear it but I’ve been told a time or two that just maybe, now I said just maybe our fear has caused us to go a little overboard! What’s overboard truly with all this dangerous open space, filled with wolves and sheep. Checking all of their messages, following them on all social media accounts, having your family and friends follow and report to you, tracking devices, and I can keep going but I know you catch my drift. Hell, I don’t play about mine I will pop up on you, so you better be where you supposed to be. I’m so paranoid I will be the type to hide in the bushes, watch with binoculars, hide behind cars, and then some.
THE NIGHTMARE…
They done found some little boy or girl that done got them thinking they got girlfriends and boyfriends and what not and you know when that happens the hormones got them thinking they big stuffing mix now. They want to bathe, put deodorant on and perfume and cologne, now they want to wear they good clothes outside instead of they play clothes, you know trying to show out. Notice these changes, it’s okay to admit it, listen I don’t know not one parent at one time or another didn’t have to send their child a reminder like, look here, I don’t care if you going anywhere or not you must bathe every single day, or one of those walk by swish moments and you get a little whiff of they play session and you got to do a bird call like, look here you need to go do a splash, splash up and put some deodorant on! When they change up and do it on they own they starting to care, but now why?! Some little fast tale little boy or girl done got to your little angel, all in their ear with sweet nothings, always on they teams when they playing the out door sports, trying to get in all good, knocking on your door asking can they come out. Yeah you remember, because now you reflecting back, and now what you doing? Umm huh, side note I had to catch myself cause I was doing it too, I started punishing them a little bit for nothing major to keep them from away from them little baby stealers. Yeah, they trying to take our babies away from us and they ain’t even old enough yet. Now we said we wanted them to grow but we didn’t say that damn fast.
Got you looking at every kid with the side eye like what you want round here with my seed?! Then here they come on some new ish, talking about, “How old do I have to be to go on a date?” Skirt! Say what no? Oh hell nah, who done got to my baby got them inquiring about dates and what not. What we try to do to avert their attention? Start talking about how they need to be focused more on school and grades and how they too young to be thinking about holding hands and girlfriends and boyfriends. Lord, just thinking about it, writing about it sends me into shock, I ain’t ready baby Jesus! If that don’t work you try to flip the switch and tell them how much they can’t trust them because they want something from them, you try too use scare tactics about sex and how dangerous it can be or how it brings babies. Then what happens? If the verbiage doesn’t work it’s on to the visuals, catch them on. Humble one day all calm cool, call them in like I want to show you something. Have them sit down and pulled up on the screen you have some of the horrific of pictures of STDS, Viruses, infections, bumps, I mean the vicious nasty stuff that terrifies them so bad they don’t even want to share candy with their besties. It’s a cycle people, it’s what’s been done to us, but does it always work? These children are so ballsy and ruthless this day and age, got you shaking in your boots.
JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL…
You done heard they little friends or better yet their own sibling done dropped the dime on them, got some whispers going on about done had a kiss or wanting to kiss or holding hands, I almost just passed out just then, thinking about one of my seeds kissing, no baby Jesus, get your young away from my angels. Every parent always feel or put blinders on that they baby can do no wrong it’s them little fast tale outsiders corrupting our springs, when whole time it’s both of they fast tale assets. What are we to do? Think about it, some of our tactics actually create the very thing we are afraid of, others intensifies or rush what we are afraid of, and even worst we create the sneaky snot roamers. On one ticket we want nothing more in the world but to keep them protected so we feel it necessary the things we do or how else will we be able to keep track of what’s happening or whom is entering and exiting their lives. On another ticket we want to have their trust and we want to trust in them that what we have instilled in them over the course of their upbringing has been deep rooted in their cerebrum. On that same ticket we want them to enjoy their childhoods, and refuse to do all the things we despised being done to us as we grew, but realistically it doesn’t always happen according to the guidelines.
What about when they get to sticking they chest out thinking they big stuff now cause they done got street cred for having a little boyfriend or girlfriend and you got chop they cakes in front of all they friends, “like the hall if you do got a anything, you too little. Where ya momma at little one, you can’t play with my young anymore.” Now they all embarrassed up, and mad at you, don’t want to eat dinner with you, barely saying good morning, oh and lets not forget the snatching the stuff around while doing chores like you won’t one two step kick them.
ACCEPTANCE
This is very hard but this is our way in people, not full blown but baby steps. I feel that sometimes people mistake you being a little friendly and understanding during their adolescence is us tryign to be their friends, but in reality we are trying to not to be full outcast to their state, and there is certain factors needed in order to have full access if we are being honest. A little patience, a lot of communication, mixed with some understanding could grant you more respect and access than you think. i feel they will be more comfortable conversing about it then terrified to come forth with truth because a kid doesn’t want to be under a certain microscope when it comes to their parents.
CHALLENGE
I challenge you to reflect! Remember the saying, “it takes a village to lead a child.”? I believe it does and due to evolution certain tactics are non in void. Think about some of your experiences and and the outcome and come share with us. It just may be a resolution for another. If not we are do for a laugh on some of your fun parenting moments and discoveries.
What’s taking it too far with our children?
What age do you feel it appropriate for them to date?
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